Or how a certain type of man always blames the woman for thier own failures.
I’m chatting online on OK cupid (bad habit, but yields utterly hilarosu results at times, I have a bad habit of talking to people onlien for the lulz sometimes) and some guy pops up in the chat thingy ‘hey which bit of lievrpool are you in? wanna go out? do you think we’d cuddle what do you wanan do? How about sex? etc (you can see a section of the ‘I wasn’t being pushy or demanding’ barrage below)
I reply that I prefer to get to know people first and that he seemed a bit full on, which y know rings all the ‘don’t go and meet lunatics’ alarm bells.
I then get a barrage of insults calling me a tramp, implying I use a lot of batteries (well it certainly is preferable to idiotic men isn’t it? and I’d probably get better concerstaion out of a vibrator to be honest).
Perfect example methinks of that type of man known as ‘mr entitlement’ apparently I should be greatful he’s made a generous ofer to go out with me , despite showing no effort to want to talk to me even for five minutes. Explainign that i’d rather chat to someone first to see if we have anythign even remotely in common before agreeing to meet a lunatic from the inatrwebs seems to me a pretty reasonable response. but no to Mr entitlement I am an evil bitch who ‘demands’ men spend hours talking to me before I dare grace them with my presence.
There is a certain type of misogny that seems to come to the fore when you reject a certain type of low life not worthy of the word ‘man’ men and it really pisses me off. The whole ‘It can’t possibly be my fault that not every woman wants to jump into bed with me so hey she must be a DYKE WHORE BITCH FAT ASS BITCH DYKE or something along those lines. I’m always somewhat amazed at the sheer hatred and bile these men will heap upon women who reject them, and then see it as us deserving it becuase we don’t want a date or whatever.
The homophobic aspect of all this is disgraceful too (this is not the only time I’ve been called a lesbian for refusing advances). I’m not insulted by being called a lesbian, I am insulted by homophobic insults, by the insinuation that being gay is a bad thing worthy of scorn. So all those ‘well if you’re not a lesbian why are you offedned? ‘ lines don’t wash. I’m offedned becuase denying people thier humanity based on thier sexual orientation is a hideous and inherrently insulting thing.
I called the guy on this and he denied being a homophobe. yeh right, it is homophobic to use lesbian as an insult. It inferrs it’s a bad thing, something to be ashamed of. I don’t date homophobes and I will challenge your language if you use such bigoted and insulting language.
That and the whole disbelief that I might be on there just for fun and aren’t that interested in meeting people and sometimes it’s just ncie to have a conversation about things.
I wish I could say this guy was an isolated incident, but I’ve seen enough of this sort of bullshit on and offline to regoconise it and mentally assess it as a certain catergoy of behaviour.
Yeh I know I should just close down the chat in a nano second, but sometimes I’m bored and morbidly curious.
editied convo snippets for LOLs and because I am an ‘immature cunt’.
ok and if i dont tick your boxes but im not a minger would you still be up for meeting and be up for sex?
so then, since im slim with short hair and im a nice guy, do you wanna meet up and see if you find a spark and decide if my face is going between your thighs or not?
well if only for the free drink?
what do you do with your time? are you at uni? working? sitting around messing online? or what?
soo, i dont wanna push but will you meet for a coffee sometime? it seems the best way forward. if you dont like me you can say so and thats ok
rather than spend time on here getting to know me and then find theres no point?
why?
well do we need to get on for me to lick you out? or do i just need to not be a minger and be available when youre horny?
look all i can say is meet up and see how we go and give me a try
look i could give you a hundred reasons to meet and you could still refuse them all and i suspect you would cos i dont think youre serious about meeting anyone
Me: I just don’t like arrogant men who i have nothing in common with.
how do you know if we have something in common or not? what sorta things are you looking for? why not just meet up and see?
me:becuase your persistence is annoying and seems a bit desperate
ok sorry, its not desperate, just thought it might be nice and to be honest you dont seem like someone i wanna give loads of info to cos i dont think youre serious about meeting anyway
me: not serious about meeting you anyway, or anyone till i get to know em a bit
you see i think i would spend ages sitting here telling you all the things you ask to know and sending pics and then you would just fuck me off anyway
hellooo?
hi
how you doin? where in liverpool are you? would you be up for meeting?
whereabouts in south liverpool? and if we chat would you meet to get to know me? and what might you wanna meet for? drink and cuddle? or just chat? friends? relationship? company and fun?
I said no, said I found his attitude a bit off putting and this is when the shit hit the fan
no wonder youre single
ugly fat tramp
excuse me? im bored and chatted to you to try and be nice.
took pity on you cos im so nice. cos youre clearly spending a fortune on batteries
i take pity and invite you for a drink and your response is to insult me?
THATS WHAT I SPENT TIME FILLING IN A PROFILE FOR YOU FUCKING RETARD. I INVITE YOU FOR A DATE AND YOU READ IT AND DECIDE IF YOU MIGHT LIKE TO ACCEPT MY WONDERFULLY KIND AND GENEROUS OFFERS
so you expect us all to spend months chatting to you before even asking if you may like a drink sometime? so if i see you in a bar i should spend all night discussing the weather and not offer you a drink? grow up you fucking immature little cunt
and he ended with a classic ‘you feminist dyke!’ (as if I’m suppossed to be insulted by this, some of the loveliest people I know are feminist dykes!)
BTW reported guy to site admin. Least I could do really.
